Such a simple message. Something we all learned in kindergarten. Be kind. Don’t take stuff that isn’t yours. Let everyone have a chance. Be kind.
My son and I were walking down the street of our small coastal town yesterday and I saw this handmade sign stapled to a tree.
It reminded me of one of my more humiliating marriage moments. My husband once asked me, “Why can’t you just be as kind to me as you are to your best friends?” Gulp. Why not indeed? I don’t always have to agree with him, or feel madly in love with him, but I can at least be kind. Don’t I do that for friends I haven’t made vows to in front of church and pastor?? Aren’t I at least kind to the dog I don’t want to feed first thing in the morning before I’ve had coffee? Being kind isn’t that hard.
After twenty five years of marriage I try to remember this: it’s more important to be kind than to be right. To be right means you win the point, but lose the relationship. You lose the oneness, warmth and trust that a good marriage is supposed to have. If you are kind, you open the possibilities for coming back to the discussion another day. With someone who has a willing ear because they weren’t belittled and mocked for their viewpoint the last time. Kindness keeps the door open. To communication. To love.
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Inside you’ll find inspiring quotes about marriage, love, families and relationships. And here is one of my favorite quotes on kindness and decency in the book:
“The secret of happy marriage is simple: just keep on being as polite to each other as you are to your best friends.”
As Valentine’s Day approaches, maybe we shouldn’t be worrying about getting love, feeling love and all the other emotions we are supposed to be having according to the cards and chocolate manufacturers. Maybe we can start with just kindness. As we learned in kindergarten, kindness is one of the building blocks of decent society. It’s also a building block to romance.
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What’s in my ears?
I love Audible.com. Every month they send me credits for free books. So when I’m walking the dog, driving to school or cleaning out a closet, I am listening, learning and loving it! You can try it for FREE!
This month I’m listening to Joshua Becker’s “The More of Less.” I know what to do (throw all that stuff away I haven’t used, worn, looked at in years) but Joshua gets into the why. I find listening to people’s why very motivating. His take on the joys of being more minimalist will get you motivated. Great for a new year and new beginnings.